#IAmAWitness


There is a campaign called I See Bullying which I found on Twitter which just sums up what I stand for.

This song is the song used for the campaign and has been one of my favorites ever since came out and the lyrics all about struggle, hope, empowerment, beauty, and love. In the official video, we meet a lot of beautiful people and hear their stories.



 It really opened my eyes, but I see similar things every day. So now is the time to make a stand.

How Bullying Has Affected Me

I've been bullied for as long as I can remember, I've never been your stereotypical girl, I played rugby and then put on my heels on afterwards, so I find it really hard as I'm not a girly girl but I'm also not totally a tomboy, I'm just an awkward mixture. 

So after many, many years of bullying (I'm so used to it so some of it was probably from me in my head), it is fair to say that I have pretty low self-esteem. I try to be confident - maybe too hard - but when I'm uncomfortable, lost, alone or like I don't fit in, I completely shut down which makes it harder on me as that means that I constantly push people away even if I don't mean to.

I started this blog to help people like me, and keep their spirits up or just educate others so that they just understand and maybe think before they act and realise what they've been doing which seems harmless to them but is crushing to someone else.

About this Campaign


90 percent of teens ages 12-17 who have witnessed some form of online cruelty say they have ignored mean behavior on social media, and more than a third (35 percent) have done this frequently (Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project). Research has shown that the bystander can play a pivotal role in stopping bullying.

In a groundbreaking effort to empower teens to speak up when they see bullying, the Ad Council and an unprecedented coalition of media, corporate and non-profit partners launched the I Am A Witness campaign. Developed pro bono by ad agency Goodby Silverstein & Partners, the campaign aims to stop bullying by activating the “silent majority” of kids who witness it each day, transforming them from passive bystanders into a united, empowered and active collective that will speak up against bullying.

The heart of this campaign is the Witness Emoji. Shaped like a speech bubble with an eye in the center, the Emoji enables teens to take a stand against bullying and show support for someone who is being bullied by posting it online or through a text message.

The Emoji is available on iPhone running iOS 9.1. and via a downloadable keyboard available in the Apple App Store and the Google Play Store. The I Am A Witness keyboard holds a variety of Emoji, GIFs, stickers and messages for teens to use when they experience bullying. They can post the Witness Emoji when they see hurtful comments, or send GIFs and stickers to show support for someone in need. All assets drive to the campaign website IWitnessBullying.org.

What Can You Do?


  • If you know someone who is being seriously bullied - TELL SOMEONE. 
  • SPREAD AWARENESS of the effects
  • Be a FRIEND or a SUPPORT to people that you wanted or would want
  • If you see someone being bullied SPEAK UP
  • TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE
  • THINK about how your ACTIONS AFFECT OTHERS
  • LEARN more about it


For more info visit: http://iwitnessbullying.org/

How to Face Your Fears




We all have fears, whether they be spiders, small spaces, clowns, haunted houses or celery, but with just over two weeks to halloween I thought I'd write a post aimed at facing your fears.

Yes, I know Face Your Fears Day was now ages ago, I messed up, I know. but shouldn't we be facing our fears everyday...

Why should we Consider Everyday to be Face your Fears day??


We all have a variety of different fears that can affect are lives in many different ways. Some are almost impossible not to face, such as going to school and facing bullies and some we can try to avoid like the plague, like coming out of the closet to family who don't understand or even eating celery.

Everyday we take risks, face fears and that takes a lot of courage. People don't just face their fears on face their fears day, they can face them on any day at anytime, anywhere. Not all fears we overcome but we do live with them everyday. Which is why I consider everyday Face Your Fears Day.

What Are My Fears?


It's not really fair to tell people to face their fears when I'm not really honest about my own... (see here)

Some Fears that my Friends Have


I know a lot of people's who are scared that their fears are 'stupid' or 'not scary enough' so I'm going to share a few of my friends without names, just to show you how different they can be.


A fear is caterpillars and celery. 
I'm afraid of the inevitability of death
Doing something really nervewracking like auditions, serious interviews, hotseating where all the pressue is on you...
My fear is flies, wasps; anything that can fly into my face
I fear failing to do the right thing at the right time and not meeting all my expectations.
Not getting an A* in German [she's fluent] 
I'm scared of all you guys [her friends]
Popcorn
Not know how many orororors to do in Gloria Hosanna in Excelsus 
 Reading or speaking in front of the class
You...
Stuttering in front of my crush
Dropping someone in cheer
 Disappointing my parents
Talking to my crush 

How to Face your Fears today


All fears are different and some are easier to face than others, but my advice to you is that everyday to make an effort to confront your fear, whether that is  talking about it,  taking a step to conquer it or even thinking about it, if you're too far from that fear just actively do something to face it.

Whenever someone has a fear I think it's best to just go for it!  It's better to regret it afterwards than to regret not doing it. Because it might go really well, I mean it might not, but it might go very well. 
Megan Walker
Even if you embarass yourself, it's okay. If you don't embarass yourself your life is boring
Megan Walker 

Tips to Overcome Fears


Facing Your Fears isn't easy, even without trying to overcome them. But I found these two videos and website really helpful in trying to address and overcome mine.




■ http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/overcoming-fears.aspx

■ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-essential-tips-to-face-fear-and-live-a-bold-life/

So I wish you well on the path of facing your fears.

Charlz x

My Fears 10/16


I have many fears and I'm pretty sure I haven't discovered all of them. After interviewing people for the past 2 weeks about their fears I soon began to recognise my own. So I made a list:

 1. I can't stand horror movies, I have no taste for them. Granted, I haven't really given them a chance but I'm shivering.


 2. This probably stems from the fact that used to be terrified of movies in general. It sounded like someone was trying to murder me when my parents sat me down to watch high school musical.

 3. I don't know if this counts a fear, as such, but I hate Christmas Dinners I can't stand the smell or taste and end up having ribs, yorkshires and basically KFC. Probably down to school dinners.

 4. I basically have a meltdown if you attempt to put flared trousers on me. I admit they look good on some people but on me they make me want to throw up.

 5. Daddy Long Legs are basically the devil. Flies are annoying and I'm fine with spiders (as long as they're not on me) but flying spiders should not be a thing [I'm getting goosebumps just thinking about them].

 6. I am absolutely terrified of ending up alone. Unloved, unwanted and just a nuisance.

 7. In turn, this makes me petrified of doing the wrong thing, so I end up doing nothing, which admittedly is worse as I feel that I have no personality.

 8. Also, I'm terrified to be myself. I know that not everyone will like me, that's not realistic. But I have very low self esteem from being bullied a lot when I was younger.

 9. I also hate disappointing people. Meaning that I'm a try hard most of the time.

10. Being not taken seriously is also up there, I hate being underestimated and try to keep a bottle on things. But that would scare me.

11. Losing control is also very scary for me.

12. And with the exception of a very select few that I've known for years, I find it very hard to converse with people I know

13. This blog I created to change at least one persons life for the better. A constant fear of mine is that I'm not doing all the people I'm speaking up for justice, after seeing first hand the effects of some things like bullying, depression, self harm, insomnia, anorexia, being in the LGBT Community. A lot of these I am not but I know a ton of people who are affected by it and want to do them justice and make them proud.

14. Death scares me. I don't want to lose my friends or my family and I don't know and can't know what comes after.

15. And my daily fear, is that I won't be able to sleep (properly) as usual and that will affect me negatively for the entire day.

16. Dropping someone in cheer

17. Donuts

So I hope that you learned a lot about me and understand me better.

Charlz x

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