We all have fears, whether they be spiders, small spaces, clowns, haunted houses or celery, but with just over two weeks to halloween I thought I'd write a post aimed at facing your fears.

Yes, I know Face Your Fears Day was now ages ago, I messed up, I know. but shouldn't we be facing our fears everyday...

Why should we Consider Everyday to be Face your Fears day??

We all have a variety of different fears that can affect are lives in many different ways. Some are almost impossible not to face, such as going to school and facing bullies and some we can try to avoid like the plague, like coming out of the closet to family who don't understand or even eating celery.

Everyday we take risks, face fears and that takes a lot of courage. People don't just face their fears on face their fears day, they can face them on any day at anytime, anywhere. Not all fears we overcome but we do live with them everyday. Which is why I consider everyday Face Your Fears Day.

What Are My Fears?

It's not really fair to tell people to face their fears when I'm not really honest about my own... (see here)

Some Fears that my Friends Have

I know a lot of people's who are scared that their fears are 'stupid' or 'not scary enough' so I'm going to share a few of my friends without names, just to show you how different they can be.

A fear is caterpillars and celery. 

I'm afraid of the inevitability of death

Doing something really nervewracking like auditions, serious interviews, hotseating where all the pressue is on you...

My fear is flies, wasps; anything that can fly into my face

I fear failing to do the right thing at the right time and not meeting all my expectations.

Not getting an A* in German [she's fluent] 

I'm scared of all you guys [her friends]

Popcorn

Not know how many orororors to do in Gloria Hosanna in Excelsus 

 Reading or speaking in front of the class

You...

Stuttering in front of my crush

Dropping someone in cheer

 Disappointing my parents

Talking to my crush 

How to Face your Fears today

All fears are different and some are easier to face than others, but my advice to you is that everyday to make an effort to confront your fear, whether that is  talking about it,  taking a step to conquer it or even thinking about it, if you're too far from that fear just actively do something to face it.

Whenever someone has a fear I think it's best to just go for it!  It's better to regret it afterwards than to regret not doing it. Because it might go really well, I mean it might not, but it might go very well. 

Megan Walker

Even if you embarass yourself, it's okay. If you don't embarass yourself your life is boring

Megan Walker 

Tips to Overcome Fears

Facing Your Fears isn't easy, even without trying to overcome them. But I found these two videos and website really helpful in trying to address and overcome mine.




■ http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/overcoming-fears.aspx

■ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-essential-tips-to-face-fear-and-live-a-bold-life/

So I wish you well on the path of facing your fears.

Charlz x

I have many fears and I'm pretty sure I haven't discovered all of them. After interviewing people for the past 2 weeks about their fears I soon began to recognise my own. So I made a list:

 1. I can't stand horror movies, I have no taste for them. Granted, I haven't really given them a chance but I'm shivering.


 2. This probably stems from the fact that used to be terrified of movies in general. It sounded like someone was trying to murder me when my parents sat me down to watch high school musical.

 3. I don't know if this counts a fear, as such, but I hate Christmas Dinners I can't stand the smell or taste and end up having ribs, yorkshires and basically KFC. Probably down to school dinners.

 4. I basically have a meltdown if you attempt to put flared trousers on me. I admit they look good on some people but on me they make me want to throw up.

 5. Daddy Long Legs are basically the devil. Flies are annoying and I'm fine with spiders (as long as they're not on me) but flying spiders should not be a thing [I'm getting goosebumps just thinking about them].

 6. I am absolutely terrified of ending up alone. Unloved, unwanted and just a nuisance.

 7. In turn, this makes me petrified of doing the wrong thing, so I end up doing nothing, which admittedly is worse as I feel that I have no personality.

 8. Also, I'm terrified to be myself. I know that not everyone will like me, that's not realistic. But I have very low self esteem from being bullied a lot when I was younger.

 9. I also hate disappointing people. Meaning that I'm a try hard most of the time.

10. Being not taken seriously is also up there, I hate being underestimated and try to keep a bottle on things. But that would scare me.

11. Losing control is also very scary for me.

12. And with the exception of a very select few that I've known for years, I find it very hard to converse with people I know

13. This blog I created to change at least one persons life for the better. A constant fear of mine is that I'm not doing all the people I'm speaking up for justice, after seeing first hand the effects of some things like bullying, depression, self harm, insomnia, anorexia, being in the LGBT Community. A lot of these I am not but I know a ton of people who are affected by it and want to do them justice and make them proud.

14. Death scares me. I don't want to lose my friends or my family and I don't know and can't know what comes after.

15. And my daily fear, is that I won't be able to sleep (properly) as usual and that will affect me negatively for the entire day.

16. Dropping someone in cheer

17. Donuts

So I hope that you learned a lot about me and understand me better.

Charlz x

Is it shameful that before I started researching it, that I knew what the UN was but not what it does?

What is the UN?

What does the UN do? 

United Nations Day Video 

Hopefully you’ve learnt a few things just as I did…

With Halloween fast approaching I think it to be only best to share my 13 Ultimate Halloween Makeup inspiration. I’m not amazing at costumes but I love the makeup side of things. So without further ado…

1 The Chic Cat

2 The Cute Clown

3 The Floral Skeleton

4 The Extreme Skeleton

5 The Shattered Mirror

6 The Girl With Stitches

7 The Melted Makeup

8 The Veins

9 The Sophisticated Cat

10 The Half and Half

11 The Sparkly Skeleton

12 The Wonderful Werewolf

13 The Glittering Galaxy

For more inspiration follow this pinterest board...

Charlz x

Hi,

Sorry I've been M.I.A. for a couple of weeks because I underestimated how much time school, dance and cheer would take up and didn't plan accordingly, and I had an amazing post planned for World Mental Health Day last Monday but my insomnia got really bad and I didn't have the energy (ironic that my mental health condition prevented me from writing a mental health post). And before anyone disses me saying that not being able to sleep would make me more likely to write a post it's not that simple and I will explain that and my insomnia in a later post, in short even if I don't sleep I still need to rest.

I will post every Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday and potentially on other days. Check my twitter - @charlzappiah and instagram - @thisischarlz at 1930 to see if there's a post or not, and I'll be online until at least 2030 if you want to have a conversation.

See ya chicas

- People at School

Conclusion

Charlz x